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Tami_Lost 61T  
86 posts
7/18/2017 4:20 pm

Interesting post! Best of luck.


verytallsub 43M
375 posts
7/18/2017 4:26 pm

Ronald McDonald.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
7/18/2017 4:45 pm

I am sure you will find each other.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


steelcager 61M
1996 posts
7/18/2017 5:10 pm

It's always been my belief that the master/dom and slave/submissive relationship is a mutual agreement.

The master/dom is to take care of his slave/sub,loving her (or at least being a close friend), not injuring her, caring for her, and the slave/sub serves her master/dom physically while mutually agreeing to BDSM activities in the bedroom or beyond.


blackstud43 54M
1 post
7/18/2017 5:34 pm

Softslave, I rarely read these things, but yours was at least amusing and entertaining.


Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
7/18/2017 6:04 pm

Frankly, I simply don't understand the 24/7 TRE gig. If I were to be in a long term relationship with somebody, BDSM could only ever be a part of that relationship for me. In a relationship, I prize intelligence and independence greatly which is why the master/slave dynamic could only ever be a game - mais chaqu' in a son gout!


slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
7/18/2017 6:23 pm

I would love a women like you.

Slave rick


IREALLYLikeRope 55F  
9 posts
7/18/2017 7:01 pm

The main problem with this post and a number of the replies is that nobody is using the same baseline vocabulary, or, nobody is talking about the same thing.

You, the OP, seem to be speaking in terms of a sexual slavery. That is one form that lifestyle M/s takes, but you're speaking of living as a pleasure slave. Those kinds of relationships are part of a larger M/s population based on 'control'. The control may take many forms, and not all forms may be present in all M/s relationships, but the basic premise is that the slave is controlled by the Master in ways He desires. This is usually, but not always, the sort of relationship where the Master orders for the slave in a restaurant/takes her out to restaurants, opens doors for her, etc. She is a valued, cherished object to be protected. The Master gets off on controlling his property, and the property gets off on being objectified and controlled.

The other basic subgroup within the M/s dynamic is the "celebrity/service" style. This is where the slave holds the door for the Master, the slave orders for the Master at a restaurant--if even allowed to go to one, the slave brings the Master his coffee in the morning, etc. The Master gets off on being waited on, the slave on being of service.

Neither of these are the "right" way, many people have hybrid versions that are hyperspecific to the people within the construct, and there are many variations. However...

@Raven_GB says "...Frankly, I simply don't understand the 24/7 TRE gig. If I were to be in a long term relationship with somebody, BDSM could only ever be a part of that relationship for me. In a relationship, I prize intelligence and independence greatly which is why the master/slave dynamic could only ever be a game - mais chaqu' in a son gout!"

This is a total misunderstanding of the entire nature of D/s / TPE. It is also insulting. I'm intelligent and independent. I'm an alpha woman in my professional life. I own my own home, drive a Lexus, run a side business and have a weekend home on sixty acres of land I bought and nobody helped pay for or achieve this for me except myself. It is a dismissive, antiquated and completely obtuse misunderstanding of what M/s or TPE /looks like. People living lifestyle BDSM lives, including those in 24/7 TPE relationships do not check their IQs or careers or lives at the door for the sake of their vaginas. This isn't shitty porn. This is real life.


VovimBaghie2030 55M  
261 posts
7/18/2017 8:17 pm

Good luck finding some simp who is willing to "afford" you. smdh


Dashmaux 49M
101 posts
7/19/2017 9:47 am

softslave00,
Ok correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds to me more like you are referring to a more HoH and 50's lifestyle scenario rather then the Pay to submit scenario so many are seeing here. Am I wrong in this?


SultanTemujin 62M

7/19/2017 11:32 am

Your attitude will either make or break you, we cannot change fate and the tragedies that enter our lives but we can choose how we want them to change us.


Dashmaux 49M
101 posts
7/19/2017 12:04 pm

Since it won't let me add my response to your response here it is LOL

Nah I found your response to be perfect for the situation. The reason I added a label on it was I was not sure many others were understanding what you were saying. I wrote in my blog this afternoon about this post and a recent event. I think so many see the statement "Can I afford her" and instantly think it is all about the cash... Please feel free to check out what I wrote and put your comments in... I think more like this needs to be out there. We each have our own definitions, our own classifications, as you said, some just need to explore it and label it to digest it a bit better.


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
7/19/2017 10:43 pm

It sounds like you would be happy being an odalisque. Slave Keepers in that discipline take their responsibilities very seriously.

Owning a real slave is an expensive proposition. Ask anyone who has owned a real slave... oops, sorry, they're not around any more. I forgot about the Civil War and all the antebellum slaveholders who were up to their eyeballs in debt.


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
7/24/2017 11:33 am

softslave00,
Most people do not understand or have that inner need for such an Power dynamic.
For most it is just play in the bedroom, only sex orientated, and that is fine too

Only, those who crave a power dynamic, 24/7 TEP TAT, based on authority transfer are a minority.

The player kind will never understand this, and make fun of it, at the least, or curse you.. ive been there...heard it all.

very strange to find such vindictive people on a site like this... tolerance? anyone?
i am very tolerate to all the players around here & everywhere...

to me, they are just vanillas with a kinky sex life, and that is great too!
what ever makes them happy !
i dont try to make them feel bad about their desires!

such men with these kind of needs, cravings, must be mentally very strong, have a stable personality, bé in charge of himself, first
Is able to support his slave on an emotional, mentally level.

Knows his needs and knows he can give his slave what she craves too!
the controle, the powerdynamic, the exchange, all in all!

i totally dig what you are looking for.
they are rare, those men!
some dont even know that this is what they crave, in a woman, in a relation because society made them feel bad about wanting this, needing this...

dont ever give up your search! he is there, somewhere!


lov_pussy13 60M

8/1/2017 12:34 pm

sounds to me like a good wife post 1105056


rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
8/16/2017 1:07 pm

softslave00,

Some men are not aware of their dominance, for them it is normal, although they dont know how to handle it...
You understand?,
in this society it is not accepted (anymore) that the man is a powerfull person, with authority, with responsibility for others,

So, they struggle too.

dreamcatcher_ if you dont understand, dont judge please.

The 'slaves' i know, have responsible jobs, with a lot of responsibility.
and 'controle' other people in their function, job... desicion making powers.

Most men on here, dont have what it takes, anyway,
Dont have the mental capacity for being in charge of a slave, while she has a responsible job, takes care of her family and submit, surrender freely to her Master...as the core of their relation.

If you dont understand it, why do you need to make a joke about it?
Isnt that a sign of weakness? character weakness.
Do you also make jokes about transgenders/ Gay people? dog lovers?
character weakness.



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