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drmgirl622 68F  
25881 posts
3/19/2017 2:56 pm

You have every right to say and feel as you choose !


Softlysexy 58F

3/19/2017 4:14 pm

Do not ever think of yourself as weak, you were strong enough to delve deep and admit that your aversion to semen is not something that you can overcome.

Yes, there is a man out there, confident enough in himself to know his semen does not define him, kind enough to make your aversion a non issue, with wisdom enough to see your heart. That man is the only man that truly deserves you!

We each have them, those aversions, those triggers strong enough to rain down actual, physical memory over us and we all deserve just one person in our lives that loves us enough to do all they can to protect us from those triggers. We ALL DESERVE that one and I for one will find strength in your strength to not settle!

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.
Rumi


slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
3/19/2017 4:27 pm



Slave rick


Softlysexy 58F

3/19/2017 7:19 pm

    Quoting  :

Just so everyone knows, I don't know how to edit the quote,, soo not being vain and quoting myself..

Sub_nouveau makes a very good point, that primal instinct is present in most males of most species. The difference is the understanding, the intelligence. If not for the understanding and intelligence we would not have evolved beyond the stone age.

I realize there are all kinds of self-help tricks out there, but the one that worked best for me during a very dark period was remembering that the words "I am" are the two most powerful words in the universe.. you can use that power simply but carefully using the words that follow..

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.
Rumi


camperdude_69 63M
599 posts
3/20/2017 1:59 am

very nice


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
3/20/2017 11:51 am

What a sad, moving post. Sad that the event(s) happened to you and you have not been able to overcome them. Moving in that you have the courage to acknowledge your limits and cannot "take one for the team."

I love for a woman to take my cum; psychologically, it's sort of like "she totally accepts me." I have dated women who did not want cum in their mouth and was OK with that. One woman, though, would take me out frequently to say, "Don't cum in my mouth." This was quite annoying since I had assured her I wouldn't as well as actual experience that I didn't, but she still persisted. We didn't last long...as soon as I realized she was a drug addict, I wanted no part of sex with her. She even asked, "Do you wanna fuck my pussy?"

But not cumming in a woman (vagina) would be a deal breaker for me. Barring risk of pregnancy, STDs, etc., cumming in her is the final bond for me. It's not about "marking", but bonding. She can smear her secretions or squirt all over me; why can't I cum in her?

Like CowboyRam above, I do not enjoy/like bruises. I like providing sensations to a woman (spanking, flogging...) but not pain that bruises. I have never slapped a woman's face but have playfully slapped tits, pussy, and ass.


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
3/21/2017 9:26 am

Quoting _Please_SeduceMe:
hus, why I always add - "work with me to help me overcome" in my explanations. But most refuse to even work with me - to help form that trust that I need. And that is where the rub of the whole issue lays.

My take is the issue is so deeply rooted that trust wouldn't help. In your initial statements, you indicated years of therapy. Since that has been unsuccessful, how would someone establish a level of trust to overcome the aversion? Not asking specifically, but throwing out thoughts.

To reiterate, I'm saddened the event(s) happened to you.


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
3/23/2017 11:35 am

Quoting _Please_SeduceMe:
you are assuming that i have had a man who I have been able to trust...

I think you may have misunderstood. Nowhere did I assume or imply you have had a man you could trust. Rather, I rhetorically asked, "If years of therapy hasn't helped you overcome the issue, how can you anticipate/expect trust to overcome?"

I now interpret that since you've never trusted a man, you never will; it's only a fantasy. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's what I'm reading into it. I have encountered other abused women; some were so messed-up they will never trust or have a "normal" relationship. For example, one likes to be used, but has never had an orgasm with a partner be it stranger, boyfriend, or even her husband. Another has crawled into the dark hole of religion; even though she admits being horny, she uses religion as an excuse not to date or engage.


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
3/26/2017 10:56 am

Quoting _Please_SeduceMe:
...does not mean I have not witness[ed] men be good to their partners.
Multiple women have told me, "No one has ever done that before..."; i.e., treated them so well.

I have a desire to trust, therein is the key - one must want to trust.
The subsequent key that must be answered is can the desire to trust overcome the fear?

Note—I'm not lobbying for myself. We exchanged a few messages some time back. You're severely allergic to smoke and I'm a smoker. That eliminates me entirely. My comments are hypothetical/philosophical.



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