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PhilosStrangler 46M
567 posts
4/19/2017 10:36 am
I feel the need to open up, a little...

There's been a lot that's been going on, and I know I made a big deal about not dripping the platter of my personal life all over my blog...

There's just been a few things that I need to get off my chest.

Who the fuck says things like:

"It's a good thing you never had children of your own."
"This many years and I still can't find anything real about you."
"Gods you're a piece of shit."
"Everything about you is just fake."

Whomsoever said, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me" was obviously full of shit.

How is it that someone who is so mired in the past (like dredging shit up from a DECADE ago, just to pound me with it last night) have the BALLS to say that they're looking towards the future, and that you need to let things go?

How the fuck can someone heal, if they can't even see where the hell they are at the present?

How the fuck can someone say that everything that's ever happened in the past, is STILL happening in the present, because every single little fucking thing they think that you are doing wrong, or anything that you do that doesn't agree with them, or anything you do to stand up for/defend yourself BRINGS EVERYTHING THAT EVER WENT WRONG, OR WAS HURTFUL RIGHT BACK INTO THE PRESENT LIKE IT HAPPENED FIVE FUCKING SECONDS AGO?

Sorry, but I needed to get that off my chest.




In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/21/2017 10:14 am

    Quoting Softlysexy:
    Narcissists never see what is wrong with them.. any perceived faults are the fault of the empath that loves them. And they know the empath will continue to take the fault, until the empath finally realizes their own needs are not being met.. and then that is also the empaths fault.. surely they should not have needs.

    Take care of you!
I suppose it's a classic sign, when the person inflicting this is the one thinking that:
THEY'RE the empath, and
YOU'RE the narcissist...
Go flippin' figure...


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/21/2017 7:55 am

    Quoting sub_nouveau:
    Ramblings? sometimes.
    Disturbed? no more than most
    Irrational? nahhhhhh

    You've found your safe place amongst us
Wow. The only thing I can say, is thank you.


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


sub_nouveau 48F  
3408 posts
4/20/2017 1:40 pm

    Quoting PhilosStrangler:
    Didn't Shrek say something about, "Better out than in, that's what I always say?"
    I'm working on keeping my emotional armor plating in place, and also making sure that this isn't something that becomes permanent.
    I hate being in a place where the options are so limited (economy, job situations, kids, blah, blah blah...)

    Um, isn't most of what I've been posting just irrational ramblings of a disturbed mind?

Ramblings? sometimes.
Disturbed? no more than most
Irrational? nahhhhhh

You've found your safe place amongst us

Let's talk. It's how we learn about yesterday and comprehend today.


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/20/2017 10:16 am

    Quoting sub_nouveau:
    Some people try to lessen their own pain by inflicting as much pain as possible on another. Of course that action does nothing to help either of them, just creates more pain and sadness.

    I'm sorry you're being subjected to such abhorrent behaviour, but think its great you're getting it off your chest. Its definitely better out than in!

    I hope you find a way to disregard the verbal attacks as irrational ramblings, and find your happy place instead.
Didn't Shrek say something about, "Better out than in, that's what I always say?"
I'm working on keeping my emotional armor plating in place, and also making sure that this isn't something that becomes permanent.
I hate being in a place where the options are so limited (economy, job situations, kids, blah, blah blah...)

Um, isn't most of what I've been posting just irrational ramblings of a disturbed mind?



In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/20/2017 10:13 am

    Quoting softlyerotic:
    So, I have a TON of recent experience with this.

    For me what's worked is moving out, giving the relationship space, and focusing on things that make me happy or pleased with myself..So,

    I adopted a rescue (that he refused to let me adopt)
    I joined a kinky sex site but am remaining celibate....for now (for me, not for him). Gotta get my head in a happy place before I can get on my knees, ya know?
    I painted my home office, which he wouldn't allow me to do.
    I am reading books on finding Inner Peace because when you're in a negative, fucked up relationship for awhile, it skews your perception of yourself and others.
    I'm focusing on my body because I didn't take care of myself like I should have because I was miserable. MY fault on that, not his. But I'm working on it.
    I joined some interest groups in my area through Meet up and I'm really having fun meeting new peeps that I share common interests with.

    The common thread is I'm focusing on me, my shit, my interests. His words still cut deeply, but slowly, they don't have the power over me they once did.

    She's bringing up ancient history because she's hurting too. Things are too inflamed to find common ground. Giving or taking some space will help. At least it helped me.

    Not sure anything I said in there will help, but wishing you the best. You're in dark place right now and it's draining as hell. Find a way to find some light in. That's the path to inner peace and joy. (At least that's my hope)

    Back to perving for me. Catch ya on the flip side!
I appreciate you sharing your experiences, it does help
Thank you very much for the good wishes, I'll take all the help I can get.


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/20/2017 10:11 am

    Quoting rebel_luey:
    It's good to get things off your chest. Then move on and make new friends and playmates
That, m'dear, is exactly the plan.


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/20/2017 10:10 am

    Quoting MissAnn5:
    MMMM.... He Said Boxer briefs... Wonder If He'd Give Us a Pic ?!

Sorry MissAnn, but images of my underwear and my package will have to reside in your twisted imagination...

I'm not that kind of guy.


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


Softlysexy 51F  
135 posts
4/19/2017 7:29 pm

Narcissists never see what is wrong with them.. any perceived faults are the fault of the empath that loves them. And they know the empath will continue to take the fault, until the empath finally realizes their own needs are not being met.. and then that is also the empaths fault.. surely they should not have needs.

Take care of you!

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.
Rumi


sub_nouveau 48F  
3408 posts
4/19/2017 3:09 pm

Some people try to lessen their own pain by inflicting as much pain as possible on another. Of course that action does nothing to help either of them, just creates more pain and sadness.

I'm sorry you're being subjected to such abhorrent behaviour, but think its great you're getting it off your chest. Its definitely better out than in!

I hope you find a way to disregard the verbal attacks as irrational ramblings, and find your happy place instead.

Let's talk. It's how we learn about yesterday and comprehend today.


rebel_luey 50F  
1586 posts
4/19/2017 12:55 pm

It's good to get things off your chest. Then move on and make new friends and playmates

"We're one microscopic cog in his catastrophic plan"
Nick Cave


MissAnn5 58F  
7779 posts
4/19/2017 12:05 pm

    Quoting brandygirasol:
    MissAnn I'm Shocked By How Naughty You Are Today ...!!!
MMMM.... He Said Boxer briefs... Wonder If He'd Give Us a Pic ?!


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 12:03 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    Oh! hell, that is eaten you, i gues....

    Well, maybe it is their shit and not yours at all?
    something called projection....? maybe...?

    Sometimes you need to let people go, when they are toxic to you...or just dont walk the same direction? and cant accept that you changed....?
    and what you want in life....?

    It is good that you get it off your chest.

    Hope you feeling better?
I appreciate your insight, and I am working on taking my life in a different direction.
That which does not kill us, hurts like hell...


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 12:02 pm

    Quoting gaggedu22:
    it is all a mind over matter, . i dont mind cause shitbags dont matter
I appreciate the sentiment


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 12:01 pm

    Quoting MissAnn5:
    Are You Wearing Boxers or Briefs ?
Boxer briefs


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


brandygirasol 49T  
786 posts
4/19/2017 11:57 am

    Quoting MissAnn5:
    Are You Wearing Boxers or Briefs ?
MissAnn I'm Shocked By How Naughty You Are Today ...!!!


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 11:57 am

    Quoting brandygirasol:
    Sugar- Just A Suggestion But Perhaps You Need To Distance Yourself From Negative People In Your Life...
I appreciate the input, and I'm working on it.
It's hard to disengage from someone after over a decade and a half together.


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


MissAnn5 58F  
7779 posts
4/19/2017 11:51 am

Are You Wearing Boxers or Briefs ?


gaggedu22 44M
14 posts
4/19/2017 11:51 am

it is all a mind over matter, . i dont mind cause shitbags dont matter


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 11:49 am

    Quoting MissLadywood:
    It's good to get stuff of your chest so vomit away, i'll hold your hair back


Woody,
I love ya for that woman, but I. Shave. My. Head.




In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*


MissLadywood 44F  
3632 posts
4/19/2017 11:48 am

It's good to get stuff of your chest so vomit away, i'll hold your hair back



Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


brandygirasol 49T  
786 posts
4/19/2017 11:25 am

Sugar- Just A Suggestion But Perhaps You Need To Distance Yourself From Negative People In Your Life...


rosaenaluin 58F  
544 posts
4/19/2017 11:05 am

Oh! hell, that is eaten you, i gues....

Well, maybe it is their shit and not yours at all?
something called projection....? maybe...?

Sometimes you need to let people go, when they are toxic to you...or just dont walk the same direction? and cant accept that you changed....?
and what you want in life....?

It is good that you get it off your chest.

Hope you feeling better?


PhilosStrangler 46M
385 posts
4/19/2017 10:37 am

Caution, Emotional Vomit ahead...


In the immortal last words of Socrates...
"I drank what?"
*thump*



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