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I am demi and sapiosexual. I have been since before there was a word for either, and it was trendy. It informs my sexuality enormously so please bow out if you don't think this is important. We have to stimulate, captivate and challenge one another intellectually and mentally before ANYTHING else. I am also not looking for ANYONE married, partnered, ethically non-monogamous, in an "open" marriage, in a thrupple, a triad, a dyad, a polyamorous or other alternative construct. YOU DO YOU. I am looking for single men only, as I would ultimately like a LTR with one man who has no other partners. PLEASE BE LOCAL. Under 30 minutes with NO bridges or tunnels to navigate.
I am quite experienced and love to play. I have been active in the real life kink scene for over 25 years. You don't have to have been practicing BDSM that long, but I am looking for an experienced, educated, interesting and rational D-type man to control me. Extra points if you're a sadist, but that isn't necessary.
What I truly want is a long term relationship that has power exchange at its core and a good healthy amount of B&D in it. This needs to be a fully developed relationship, grounded in healthy mutual respect, consent and affection. This needs to be local to me. I’m not moving to your bunker in Montana. Nope, not even if you ask nicely. I own a house. Local only. Local means within 20 miles and without crossing a river if I can help it.
I want to be used and defiled and debased and yet celebrated and cherished. Let's play and see where it takes us, but I play within normal, reasonable, RACK and SSC limits. I long for the safe embrace and protection of someone strong who understands balance and rationality, that power comes from mutual respect and who wants to truly take care of his partner. I am not averse to a Daddy Dom type, but it takes me a long time to trust, and even within that context, I don't want to be infantilized. I crave emotional safety and support, mainly.
Until we have met in person, I expect you to interact with me with respect and good manners, just like you would with a vanilla woman in a bar or restaurant. If you can't do that, don't contact me.
"Experienced" means you have played intensely in a BDSM real-life context for years. It does NOT mean you have read Fifty Shades of Grey and have a pair of handcuffs. I am not interested in anyone not roughly equivalent to me in age.
I love rope, chain, manacles, leather restraints, cuffs, etc. I enjoy being flogged, and spanking, anything thwacky or thuddy and judicious use of a single tail are always very nice. I love being teased, I love toys like vibrators, clamps, clothespins, wax play, etc, and have no problem with sensory deprivation, gags, hoods and blindfolds. I am not into tape, saran wrap, vet wrap or anything sticky, nor do I like intense pain like caning. I love being teased and tormented.
I am a lot of fun.
I absolutely, positively will not send you a photo. Period. I am great looking. This is subjective, I'll admit, so you'll have to take my word for it.
However, if you don't read my profile carefully and miss the part where my body type is heavy, this isn't my fault. I'm heavy. I'm a size 16. I look pretty good. You might not agree.
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La mia persona ideale:
Is extremely intelligent, good looking with a full head of hair and has an advanced degree. He reads. He doesn't open a conversation on here (or elsewhere) with a photo of his penis. He understands that that is stupid and off-putting. He appreciates a sense of humor in his partner, isn't intimidated by strong women and doesn't take himself too seriously. He doesn't talk about the sweetness of a sub's tears, call me "subbie" or think he has the right to call himself Sir or Master in an initial conversation with me. He is a nice, normal, healthy person with lots of vanilla interests and doesn't think the entire world revolves around kink. He likes women.
PLEASE NOTE that THIS SAYS "IDEAL MAN". I married a bald guy. If you've read this far, you must think you're a good match and I would welcome hearing from you, even if you don't have hair, an advanced degree or EVEN if you like to say "subbie".
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