I'm the most open-minded person I know. Unless something is happening that somebody doesn't want to happen, I'm all for it. Even if it's not something that I'm personally interested in, I'm in favour of what other people are interested in. So long as it's consensual on everybody's part I think it's a good thing. It's also possible for somebody to be interested in something that I'm not - and for their excitement to carry over to me so that I'm actually excited too, even though I wouldn't normally be.
I would be okay with periods of my being a dominant with someone so long as there were also periods of my being a submissive. Because of the way I'm emotionally wired, I need to feel there's an equal give and take in order for me to be happy with my own involvement. Even with that, it would not be a choice I'd make if I was only considering my own feelings. I'd be doing it because it was something that pleased my partner. Whenever I'm "forced" to describe my personality in BDSM terms I've always fallen back to saying that I'm a switch. But, in reality, I would opt-out of the whole idea of having to play a "role" in the first place. If I had my way, I'd rather be involved in the BDSM activities - but without any of the power dynamics. I enjoy working with somebody else as a partner in a team, towards a common goal. My preference would be to do all of the same things, but to talk and laugh about them as they were taking place.
I said "Straight" for my sexual orientation, but that's only because it's my romantic / partner interest. I'm really all about anything that might happen.
My list of kinks includes curiosities as well as just fantasies. It's not exhaustive, nor should anything be considered required.
If there is more than friendship, I'm open-minded to what form it would take. I'm not necessarily monogamous or non-monogamous. It all depends on who I'm with and the situation. Everybody should be happy doing whatever they want to do, and if different lives coincide as a result that's wonderful. (If it is non-monogamous, I will insist on open, honest, and ethical non-monogamy.)
For those who go by tests and personality types, I've taken the Myers-Briggs test, and I have an INFJ-A personality (the new "A" subtype is apparently "assertive"), although strangely I was INTJ about 5 years ago. I know I'm roughly 50/50 left brain versus right brain, so maybe it makes sense that I've made some small adjustments and gone from "T" to "F". (I'm happy about that change.) My IQ is about 137. I haven't tested my EQ but I'm pretty sure it would be the equivalent.
For the all important test for this site ( LOL ) here's the result of my BDSM test. The fact that I'm so "balanced" makes me smile, and I find one particular set of results to be pretty hilarious:
100% Experimentalist
99% Non-monogamist
93% Exhibitionist
92% Voyeur
90% Switch
65% Bondage giver
61% Bondage receiver
53% Submissive
48% Dominant
34% Degradation giver
30% Degradation receiver
23% Ageplayer
21% Masochist
20% Master/Mistress
17% Brat tamer
16% Vanilla
16% Brat
15% Sadist
11% Slave
8% Owner
7% Primal (Hunter)
6% Daddy/Mommy
0% All-Rounder
0% Pet
0% girl/boy
0% Primal (Prey)
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My Ideal Person:
I want to meet somebody who I can laugh with and get excited with. I want to have butterflies in my stomach when I'm with them. I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment, although I won't rule that out further down the road. I'm not looking for a commitment. Instead, I want something casual and relaxed. At the same time I'm not about one night stands. I want to feel some kind of a connection with the person I'm with. I think about sex a lot. I'd like to meet somebody to have sex with a lot. I have a lot of other things going on - and have perfectly reasonable interactions with people without any mention of sex. I don't volunteer anything about it in regular conversation. Most people would have no idea how often thoughts along these lines percolate in my head. Some people might struggle to come up with a salacious comment to make about something. My own struggle is to NOT express the comments that automatically come to me. I'm still waiting to meet somebody who thinks and feels similarly and with whom I don't need to censor any of these thoughts or comments. Or actions. I can pretty much guarantee that whatever it is that interests you, it interests me too. And there's nothing too kinky for me. Either it already turns me on (just about everything I can think of), or I'd consider exploring it if it turns you on.
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