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I think you'll find there are probably more people who either identify as either Dom or sub, than "switch". I'm not saying there are not a lot of people who identify as "switch" out there, I just wouldn't be surprised if it was something like 1/3 Dom, 1/3 sub, 1/3 switch. Which would mean, 2/3ds of the people out there, are not switch. This doesn't mean you will not run into people who would say "Well, I'm a Dom but every once in a while..." or "I'm a sub, but sometimes I like to take control". Shades of grey exist in all classes, but I really think it's a good idea to be upfront with people and explain what sort of relationship your looking for when the time comes. Two Doms don't usually make for a good match, nor do two subs. Also, even between Dom and sub, there can be room for the power to flow in different ways. For instance, a sub could walk into the livingroom completely naked with a bottle of baby oil and say "Master, if you can massage my aching back for a few minutes, you can do whatever you want to me if it pleases you..." Now, as a Dom, you can do whatever you want to that sub, with our without a backrub. BUT, because it's another human being after all, the decent thing would be for the Dom to do would be to give a backrub to the sub while deciding what he wanted to make the sub do in return. Does the sub command the Dom? No, but the sub has indicated a want or need and the Dom is willing to satisfy that need, all the while still being the Dom. My thoughts on the subject anyway...
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3/28/2019 1:37 am |
i'm definitely a sub and very happy and sexually satisfied that way. In vanilla relationships i take the traditional male role, but with a high degree of consideration for my partner. In BDSM relationships, it's sub all the way. i tried to Dom once and it really didn't work for me. i just wound up feeling rather embarrassed and confused. So while switching may work for S/some, for me i know and love my place.
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When you see BDSM as a roleplay thing, your "role" doesnt matter much, in my opinion. When you feel you are submissve, as a character trait, it is totally impossible to "switch" roles, also because it is first a mental surrender and has not much to do with "playing" a "role".... that is how i see it, For me, i know there are switches, but for me, that is totally impossible.... It is not a sexual thing, game, first, for me.
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i identify as a slave, 24/7, living & loving it... not as a play sub...
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Switching is for those that don't know what they want
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6/18/2019 10:52 am |
Nothing better than being told what to do by everyone
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