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Springfiel117 44 M
18 Articles
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Meh   10/10/2023

When did the messenger stop letting new members message people using points?


0 Comments, 32 Views, 29 Votes
RinBoots 71 F
29 Articles
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Use your common sense   7/9/2023

When looking for an experience on this site, just use you common sense things are easy to spot and if your are unsure stay away and be safe.


5 Comments, 54 Views, 31 Votes ,0.36 Score
knottiedrottie 58 M
1 Article
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dirty   1/16/2023

making sure everyone here is clean and want to meet and checking things out to make sure you are real not a scam.


4 Comments, 74 Views, 49 Votes ,0.16 Score
Seeking_MY_slave 49 M
1 Article
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asked for money   8/13/2020

How many people her have been asked for money. The other day a woman was very sad that she couldn't her rent at a hotel, she didn't get paid till friday. She said she was in a hotel, because her husband her, but when I said I was sorry hear that, and if I could see, she disapeared from the chat, but stayed onlinr.


4 Comments, 114 Views, 74 Votes ,1.06 Score
traindeadwood 69 M
2 Articles
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Extreme Abuse   1/2/2020

If you say you are no limits are you in danger of not coming out alive? <br><br> Could any NO LIMITS slaves tell me what their experiences are. And if they have got more cautious as a result of their lack of limits. <br><br> Thank you


6 Comments, 98 Views, 69 Votes ,1.53 Score
steffiswallows 61 M
1 Article
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Violence and reality for trans   11/25/2019

This year, world-wide, 331 transgenders were slain. Here in the united states, twenty-two transgender people were murdered. Ninety-one percent of those folks were trans-women of color. Eighty percent were younger than thirty years of age. We know that these numbers represent an undercount. In many counties and regions police reports, media and even blood relatives misgender and deadname ...


3 Comments, 154 Views, 111 Votes ,2.37 Score
nonsignifigant 55 M
0 Articles
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A Chat with an Ewhore   6/25/2019

The following is a direct cut/paste from a Google Hangouts chat log that I recently had with someone who IM'd me on AdultFriendFinder. It has been reported AdultFriendFinder. <br><br> <br><br> Ross - 3:28 PM OK, I am on here Rose Garry - 3:29 PM Hello Ross am here with you too Ross - 3:30 PM I can see you are very pretty, you don't have to keep sending pics Rose ...


7 Comments, 177 Views, 87 Votes ,2.60 Score
rott4444milfsss 44 M
2 Articles
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looking   5/15/2018

sometimes we have to look farther and look into what we have in cumming sometimes it take bdsm to get to know someone better and get alone and try new thing and explore new thing with them. getting to meet someone the first time it take time to get to know them and get to see what they are into one you get to know them and see what they are into many doors open to you and you feel more open to ...


0 Comments, 73 Views, 59 Votes ,2.17 Score
repeatedbehavior 34 F
6 Articles
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oohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh   9/20/2017

The most effective ways to earn points are to encourage other members to become your Top Fans, send you virtual gifts, or by broadcasting your webcam. Members can tip you points for a great show! Try some clever approaches in your profile text and communications to gather Top Fans and gifts!


6 Comments, 107 Views, 64 Votes ,3.85 Score
SexyHard58 28 M
4 Articles
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Public   7/19/2015

Always meet in public first wouldn't you say?


10 Comments, 130 Views, 53 Votes ,2.59 Score
prddddd 38 F
0 Articles
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GAGOL   7/12/2015

Most people struggle with finding their identity at some point in their life. They go through a series of changes and eventually come to a point where they understand and accept who they are. Before they can accept themselves, they may experiment with new things or try to ignore a part of themselves they do not want to accept. Gogol Ganguli from Jhumpa Lahari's novel The Namesake encounters the ...


4 Comments, 147 Views, 50 Votes ,2.62 Score
Londonsub1991 33 M
1 Article
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Warning for UK/London based members   4/23/2015

I got messaged by an American girl based in Virginia stating that she was coming over to London next week and she said later that she worked with an organisation affiliated to ALT that hosted orgy parties and the like. When answering my questions she was very vague and was evidently trying to grab money off me. Later another account from someone in LA responded with exactly the same thing. This ...


2 Comments, 110 Views, 49 Votes ,2.82 Score
jetsly 77 M
1 Article
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How to use SAVE IMAGE AS   2/7/2015

When I am approached by a Mistress, the first thing that I do is run her profile photo by a number of on line registries. Take, for example, a domme who emailed me last night. Her ALT profile situates her in Redding, California. I used Save Image As to download her profile photo to the desktop, and then used both Tineye and Google images to do a search. There was a positive hit, for ...


17 Comments, 334 Views, 85 Votes ,4.40 Score
TheSmartDom 57 M
9 Articles
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Safety in Meeting Men for BDSM   5/18/2012

Comments on Safety in BDSM MJ Reldan TheSmartDom

Our society began with women as chattel and slaves. It hasn’t set a good scene for safe, sane and consentual play. Some men feel that acceptance of their dominance is permission to hold ALL power and worse, license to wield it recklessly. The world of Dominance gives shelter to people of poor character and sick mind, with little to ...


2 Comments, 161 Views, 38 Votes ,5.15 Score
roxy37sexy 61 F
1 Article
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Meeting in Public First   9/3/2011

I think it is important to meet in public first to see if you like one another then being in someone's home. You just never know if you like one another. Of course you will experience no shows but that is part of dating process so expect it. I know I heard horror stories. So becareful out there. So how do you feel meeting in public first? Just Curious.


15 Comments, 356 Views, 65 Votes ,5.01 Score
Lcd18 70 M
10 Articles
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When is the right time to meet.   12/4/2010

Since i joined this site, i've exchanged a few emails, but wondered at some point meeting would be brought up, where should the first meeting take place and should a trusted friend either witness it or be near by?.of course it should be in a public place.then it fells like stepping out of my box or comfort zone, anyone else felt this way?.


6 Comments, 201 Views, 24 Votes ,1.54 Score
joyrdassasin4 32 M
4 Articles
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safe sex   1/29/2010

ok so its been a "viral video" with a woman on there saying all the guys she has infected with aids. but yesterday on the radio she called in a cleared it up and said it was just to get more people to view her site and that she is 100% percent clean. She also said that this was to inform peole that aids is real and is still going around. SO WRAP IT UP PEOPLE PLEASE


0 Comments, 78 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
joyrdassasin4 32 M
4 Articles
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safety 1st   1/29/2010

its always good 2 b safe o a date when meeting someone over the net. U never know if they are some stalker psycho lol or anything like that so always b careful... n always wrap it up


2 Comments, 56 Views, 20 Votes ,0.19 Score
best_dom_cairo 43 M
5 Articles
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profiles   4/4/2009

I would like to point out to people that if they do not fill out their profiles with any details, then they are possibly setting themselves up to be over looked. However I do wonder what the point of writing this in the magazine as most of the readers are people who have put alot of time and effort into revealing important details about themselv


1 Comments, 38 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
phonedoc 67 M
8 Articles
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Chancing an eggshell ambience   12/24/2008

I have recently visited my local BDSM club nights twice and once to a munch. The munch was very relaxed but I was still observing etiquette in this situation. I have found the club nights very nerve wracking as if I was walking on eggshells. Granted the first night with a Halloween theme went well and I played with two women, lucky me. The last 'Burlesque' themed evening I was smiled at by a very ...


3 Comments, 146 Views, 10 Votes
Birdfinder 80 M
45 Articles
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Safety is a Rwo Way Street   4/1/2008

Safety on dates is really a two way street. I am not a small guy and in very hard condition. While not a giant I know how to care for myself and I have the alpha attitude that keeps most respectful.

I am selective about who I meet and who I date. I don't send money to on line contacts with tear jerk tales. Have had those from east and west in USA as well as Russia, Nigeria and ...


1 Comments, 134 Views, 8 Votes ,5.33 Score
zennflower 61 F
10 Articles
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How Do I Find a Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress?   6/27/2007

Before you even start looking for a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress. Know yourself, what your desires, your wants, you needs, your limits and what you are looking for in a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress. It's a good idea to actually write these lists out, that way while you are talking with them you have the answers right there and don't have to rely on memory. ...


4 Comments, 247 Views, 28 Votes ,7.14 Score
ffdarkwolfe 49 M
1 Article
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what kind of tips should guys follow?   11/2/2006

normally, the tips are targeted to woman, should men follow similar things, something different, or just go with the flow?


0 Comments, 203 Views, 6 Votes ,1.94 Score
sexymale1974 49 M
2 Articles
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Beware of the clingy woman........   10/2/2006

Hello everyone. What's up? I love ladies in every way, but ther is one that can be a nightmare. She's the recently seperated female that know's only how to be in a relationship. They can be the best and the crazyest bitch in the world. So my advice is to just leave everything sexual.....Good luck...


2 Comments, 168 Views, 9 Votes ,0.43 Score
sex_demon96 43 M
5 Articles
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Protection against crazy ex-gf's   9/27/2006

It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault, what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like it. As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...


1 Comments, 244 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
sex_demon96 43 M
5 Articles
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Protection against crazy ex-gf's   9/27/2006

It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault, what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like it. As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...


0 Comments, 28 Views, 0 Votes
starmakerxxx 57 M
1 Article
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The Best of Times   8/23/2006

What a great age we live in today. Like a lot of people I thought I was born at the wrong time. I see it more on the alt site, but I've heard it from several groups. You know, " I should have been born at this time or that age. But when it comes to B&D/S&M this is the best of times.
This is the most natural and fun form of "perversion". Like anything else people can take it too ...


0 Comments, 78 Views, 5 Votes ,0.86 Score
planoman2 74 M
50 Articles
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Sir Thomas Trains Bob and Clair - Part II   8/23/2006

Sir Thomas had Clair and Bob put their hands behind their backs. He then tied their wrists together behind their backs. He opened the door to the hotel room and told them to follow him. Both Bob and Clair being totally nude were reluctant to go out of the hotel room. They hesitated just a second before both of them received blows on their buttocks with a command, “Move!”
...


0 Comments, 470 Views, 16 Votes ,4.01 Score
IronDuke2006 58 M
2 Articles
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Being safe...   7/11/2006

Don't give them your address & landline phone number.
Do meet first in a pub;ic place. Do arrange a 'safe call' with a friend for a certain time.
Don't always listen to gossip. Some is malicious, more inaccurate.
Do get his full real name, dob & address & phone number.
Trust your own instincts.
Remember we are all human...


2 Comments, 194 Views, 16 Votes ,5.63 Score
Larvaefam 55 F
7 Articles
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Mother fucker or Dom?   6/26/2006

How to define them? Very simple, look to their attitude;



Mother fuckers are unable to grow their subs. They want to get them already educated.
Real domes are always keen to teach, train and grow. Mother fuckers usually are worry about the level of experience of their subs.
Mother fuckers ...


4 Comments, 701 Views, 25 Votes ,3.68 Score
dom153 75 M
3 Articles
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meetings   6/23/2006

how many of you arranged to meet someone and found that they have not turned up


1 Comments, 345 Views, 6 Votes ,1.66 Score
Larvaefam 55 F
7 Articles
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FAT BOYS SLIM is not the question when you know the art of trust   6/15/2006

Fat boys or slim?

The domes learn submissive partners for their best. Unfortunately, at alt.com many submissive boys ask domes to guess do they fat boys or slim, ha ha That’s for example, or other secrets, Often they ask – Prove me that you are the real dome. Some want to see a kind of magic abilities that the domes must have. The domes don’t like to be ...


0 Comments, 108 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
SexKitten41958 66 F
1 Article
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Could YOU be the next victim?   6/9/2006

In our world of instant gratification it is sad, but true that more and more men turn to the use of drugs to get the attention and instant gratification of the girl of their choice, and YOU may not be capable to give your consent.
You are out there looking for a sexual encounter of your CHOOSING. The magic words are your CHOICE and with your CONSENT. Don’t ...


0 Comments, 317 Views, 9 Votes ,5.14 Score
GoldMan234 52 M
6 Articles
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What steps do you take to be safe?   5/22/2006

Ok I am to the point in this I want to meet the other person. My question is how do I go to be tottaly safe in the meeting?


6 Comments, 292 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
Larvaefam 55 F
7 Articles
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Ohnun wrote thousand letters to the submissive and masochistic   4/30/2006

Part two of IngYang Pussy.
Soon the buns in form of Her Pussy was named as Ya. The buns became very popular in the region and the town was renamed as Ya (after the very popular juice Ya). IngYang when it renamed itself inYa has got improved his self-esteem too much and too far. In the result all citizens of Ya became very fat from eating the buns Ya. ...



1 Comments, 81 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
Larvaefam 55 F
7 Articles
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About Whites   4/24/2006

In his first work day on Saturday, American Whites woke up at 6 a.m. . The Sun was already frying the gray day with all its possibilities. The coldest shower was used to cry: “Have a nice day Honey”. After he has inserted his head into the black mask of a cat’s face, and hands into vinyl gloves, the schoolgirl’s skirt was put on his hips; the white ...


1 Comments, 412 Views, 5 Votes ,1.19 Score
Larvaefam 55 F
7 Articles
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IngYang (how to date safety and earn from that)   4/21/2006

Part One. IngYang is the little town located in the Western Siberia, Russia. The town IngYang was always known as the town of the nicest bread. The IngYang’s bread was famous because of its fragrance. Ohnun was the woman and the Chief of the baking department at the IngYang bread manufacture. All her men of IngYang have never even thought about ...


0 Comments, 63 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
dynamitesneonaty 41 M
11 Articles
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How can I be nice but choosey?   4/13/2006

I'm really picky with girls, as I'm sure most are. I'm sorry to say it, but the vast majority of people I've met from here are fat and unattractive, despite me trying to qualify them a lot before meeting. Anyone have good ideas here?


0 Comments, 56 Views, 2 Votes
Cpl4fun_one 63 C
3 Articles
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Lookover   3/18/2006

One can never be too safe when meeting people from this site. I like to chat for an extended period of time and when it comes time to swap pics then I include one with a beard or in my leathers from being on the road. I promise after a shave and the jacket and chaps come off I look totally different. I may also set up a drink or coffee date and include my clothing description. I dress ...


0 Comments, 138 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
lynched4u 65 M
83 Articles
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Erotic Nights   3/17/2006

Trina was awakened by the ear piercing screams reverberating off her bedroom wall. As she fumbled to switch on her night light she was startled by the gruff voice from her neighbors apartment that constantly barked orders to the whimpering woman. Kneel bitch he shouted, as the thud of a whip resounded off the unmistakable sound of her bare skin. Trina had only met her neighbor once but ...


0 Comments, 152 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
jackudamiona 59 C
13 Articles
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Hotel Room Info   3/17/2006

A large number of people use hotel rooms when meeting new people for play, but do you know how important it is to keep the hotel room cards you get for your doors. These cards have all the information on them that you gave the clerk, including credit card number and expiration date. It has your home address, Phone number, liscence number, and everything that someone could use to steal ...


2 Comments, 358 Views, 16 Votes ,4.01 Score
10orbetter 59 M
1 Article
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You Never Know   2/20/2006

Have you ever met someone and over the phone they sound NORMAL, and everything seems to be going well??? Then you meet and find out this person is a REAL NUT CASE??


1 Comments, 204 Views, 6 Votes ,1.37 Score
wyckedredhead 54 F
8 Articles
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Safety 101: Is He For Real?   2/10/2006

Top ten signs that the "Dom" who just messaged you is not for real: <br> 1. He initiates your first email or IM conversation with a command. This is called the "On Your Knees Now" routine, and it's the hallmark of a really clueless HNG (horny net geek) or "chudwah" (clueless hetero dom-wannabe). <br> 2. He gets belligerent, rude or angry if you ask a question or ...


5 Comments, 468 Views, 28 Votes ,6.22 Score
wyckedredhead 54 F
8 Articles
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Safety 101: What Is A Safecall?   2/6/2006

In my previous article, I mentioned safecalls. A safecall is basically a safety line to the outside world: Someone out there knows where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing, in order to help minimize your risk. Here are some tips for arranging a safecall for your first date: <br> <br> 1. Get all the information that you can from the person you're meeting. ...


1 Comments, 322 Views, 29 Votes ,6.95 Score
wyckedredhead 54 F
8 Articles
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Safety 101: The First Date   2/3/2006

So you've been chatting to that hot new Dom/me or potential sub online or on the phone for some time, and now it's finally time to meet face to face! Sure, you have butterflies in your stomach; but chances are, so does the other person. Here's some advice to help minimize your risk, and keep those butterflies calm. <br> <br> 1. Keep it short. Half an hour to an hour ...


1 Comments, 1004 Views, 58 Votes ,7.23 Score
masterzad 40 M
5 Articles
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Partner   2/1/2006

Allows spend the night together before marrage. That the only way u know if you can stand the person in the morning


0 Comments, 70 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
masterzad 40 M
5 Articles
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Drink   2/1/2006

Keep your eyes on your drink at all times


0 Comments, 64 Views, 2 Votes
bdsmnn 53 M
18 Articles
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the   1/8/2006

Christmas!


0 Comments, 66 Views, 4 Votes ,0.14 Score
EDiva 53 F
10 Articles
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a little stress relief   1/2/2006

"I need to relieve some stress, " was all he had said before he raised her nightgown up, bent her over the couch and rammed his cock into her pussy. At the first thrust of his cock into her pussy, she immediately became wet. <br> "Shitty day?" she said breathlessly as she looked over her shoulder at him. <br> "Just shut the fuck up, " he said as he began to slam in ...


0 Comments, 235 Views, 10 Votes ,3.98 Score
Phoenix_flame 60 F
8 Articles
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Discipline   12/18/2005

The hot lick of sun as it poured over my exposed flesh warred with the chill air pumping from the car’s air conditioner. My brain was conflicted as well because the signal it was getting from my blindfolded eyes was that of complete darkness. My ears too were submitting almost negative input from my surroundings. All that i could hear with the industrial strength ear plugs inserted in ...


0 Comments, 190 Views, 9 Votes ,2.57 Score
r_zimmerman 45 M
1 Article
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Giving out your email addy   8/30/2005

Hi, <br> I'm pretty new to this and I had a question about giving out your email address. A standard member contacted me and while I'm interested in contacting her the site clearly warns against giving out your email address. I'm wondering if this is for my safety or a marketing ploy for alt.com as it would behoove them to discourage us from communicating outside of alt.com. ...


4 Comments, 397 Views, 18 Votes ,3.26 Score
lynched4u 65 M
83 Articles
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Taking a risk for r/t activities   8/12/2005

With the ability to determine the origins of e-mails, aren't on-line members in the lifestyle at a lower risk for harm than their counterparts, or is the endless ambivalance to meet justified by a noteworthy experience that has tainted your trust. How many use a safe call, or bring along someone else when meeting a potential suitor.


2 Comments, 243 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
Chainmaster100 58 M
9 Articles
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First meeting   7/22/2005

I believe a first meeting should always take place in a busy location were numbers can help make anyone feel safe.


1 Comments, 206 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
dynamitesneon 41 M
10 Articles
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Is the world that scary?   7/9/2005

How many people are afraid of those they talk to on here? I know the world is dangers and blah blah. Trust me, I'm aware; I've lived just outside Detroit my whole life. That doesn't make me afraid of meeting people. How much distance would you keep and for how long?


2 Comments, 170 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
karielynn 54 F
1 Article
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man wanting to take me to   5/23/2005

ok, everyone, here it is: I am a 35 yr old single mom. Always been in vanilla relationships and long to explore and learn more. Never been fucked by a stranger. This guy on sex search approached me. In his ad he mentioned wanting a travel companion for a trip to mexico. well--- here is his latest letter to me: Message: Morning Karie, Thanks for getting back to me, sending ...


9 Comments, 1000 Views, 17 Votes ,3.55 Score
aromaniac 58 M
1 Article
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Sydney male subs please read   5/16/2005

Beware of dreemmistress, Bondi, Sydney <br> I recently contacted the above named mistress through the alt.com site. I gave her my telephone number when she requested communication that way. She contacted me through her 'private number' mobile and we spoke 2 or 3 times on the phone over a period of about 2 weeks. She controlled these conversations and got me to send her an e-mail ...


0 Comments, 378 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
dresseuse 66 F
3 Articles
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Checking the Bag   5/6/2005

Even after having met a new LOVER or prospective MASTER, I find myself checking at least initially his bag or luggage containing the Toys of his Trade. I had a few nasty surprises a few years back that were sprung onto me during several extended play session, and which could have been avoided. Its simply a bit awkward to be bound and secured and then being prodded with a nasty and ...


7 Comments, 3642 Views, 110 Votes ,5.29 Score
rollingblock 65 M
1 Article
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Lesson Learned the Hard way   3/31/2005

THIS IS ALL TRUE I met this subie on line and we chatted and found mutual intrest. After a week of chatting she said lets meet. Well ok I figured this would be a short and interesting date and we would chat some more. Well after two or so hours she said lets go to her place and play. I never did this befor but heard others did and figured should be safe(BAD MOVE#1). She asked if I would ...


1 Comments, 734 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score
LordGreyBear 75 M
4 Articles
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Hard Limits   3/16/2005

One of the things I have found interesting is that when most list hard limits they fail to list the most important one of all. Of course, I am sure that many feel that everyone knows that it is a limit but as was drilled into me since I was a : When we assume..we make an ass out of u and me. The limit I am speaking of is snuff. I find it almost amusing that so many take the time to put ...


3 Comments, 544 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
MEDICALSCAT 57 M
3 Articles
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What do you think   3/6/2005

I have just been contacted by someone on this site who viewed my profile which is fairly specific. The persons profile states that he is a 66yo white dom although there is no photo. after exchanging a few emails I gave him my phone number. The upshot of this phone call is that he is 60yo lives just over the road from the train station I have to get to and has a middle eastern accent and ...


1 Comments, 496 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
sec7238 57 M
2 Articles
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Always Think About Safety   2/11/2005

Here are my guidelines for initial meetings. <br> 1. Meet at a public place (coffee shoppe, resturant, ...). Try to avoid bars and any place that might add additional stress to the situation. <br> 2. If you have never been there before, make a trial run. Know what to expect when you walk in. <br> 3. Bring a friend if you are not completely comfortable. ...


0 Comments, 480 Views, 21 Votes ,4.98 Score
trannyannie2 65 T
1 Article
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A CAUTIONARY "TAIL"   1/30/2005

 Dolly Pants, Diary of a Sissy Slave <br> At the beginning it was a subtle phenomena as simple as mom wanting their first to be a girl and dad wanting a little boy. The father, R.C. we’ll call him worked long hard hours as a coalminer. Mom, we’ll call her Debra had one older sister and three younger ones. They all thought the baby was a “living ...


1 Comments, 433 Views, 11 Votes
KYLeatherLover 67 M
1 Article
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Confirm ID   1/22/2005

Why is it that the majority of people on here don't have a "Confirm ID"? Get an ID, people. It instills a greater form of trust on both sides. I, personally, don't take any replies I get seriously unless they have a "Confirm ID". Are these people hiding something, or are they just playing with the serious ones on here? Master Gene


4 Comments, 320 Views, 17 Votes ,1.29 Score
Man_Bear25 44 M
7 Articles
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there isn't such a thing..   1/12/2005

There should be one more book about dating, and it should be call "Dating Safety For Dummies". if there is one already then good luck with it because in my eyes there isnt such a thing. I know what you are saying BS BS BS well let me try to prove it to you, Ask yourself one thing, How many times have you studied and rsearch a guy or girl and became friends first before you went out with ...


1 Comments, 213 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
SweetDenial 67 F
7 Articles
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Assault   11/27/2004

Mistresses, Doms, submissives all have to worry about the safty issue. I met a so called switch in 2004. He was charming in the beginning but as the relationship progressed flags started to rise. He claimed he was divorced but would rant and rave about his X wife, he was extremely anal about everything. Everything had to lined up. Even his female attire had to be just so. After about ...


9 Comments, 2015 Views, 145 Votes ,4.76 Score
mistress_moyra 55 F
4 Articles
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Legal troubles   11/16/2004

There is another type of safty issue that needs to be addressed here. This is not so much for those new to the lifestyle, though I'm sure many of that stary-eyed rank can benifit from this. I however have seen many older members of this community fall into this trap time and again. The issue is of underaged dating without realizing it. <br> Do not get caught by this!! If the ...


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S_she_S 54 F
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Red Flags for a First Meet   11/6/2004

The name has been taken out to protect the person I am talking about but here is the Scenario: <br> Met here, e-mail sent to me, replied to and so on and so forth, agreed to chat on another service, for realtime conversation instant messaging. Now this person didn't like the fact that I don't write novels as e-mails, which is fine, but then, once in Imz...Hmmmm We chatted a few ...


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Man_Bear25 44 M
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whats really safe?   10/30/2004

When we talk about dating we think of the most beautiful things, the perfect man or woman and the best sex of all time. Then we find out the ones we date are crazy idiots who want to exploid our bodies and mind then trash them like paper plates, not a good thing specially with all those std's out there. The truth is there isnt a safe way to date, be honest, straight forward and be careful ...


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Tyler-Rose 55 F
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How To Be An Effective SafeCaller   10/23/2004

Dangerous people, dangerous situations. How do we ensure our safety when we meet for the first time? How do we know the person won’t become the abuser down the line? <br> These are the most important issues for anyone meeting anyone, anywhere. <br> When a woman goes to a BDSM society meeting, she is meeting people in a public place. Going out for coffee or a bite to ...


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babycookie 50 F
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Don't do what I did   10/9/2004

I went to meet Wymondhamguy, andthought Ok we'll be Ok in private, although he was older looking than his photo, he was OK. <br> When we got private we did some light things, a bit of this and that, but I had said 'condoms' I had said no intercouse. ( unless condoms) <br> But what did he do, knelt in front of me and F***king slipped his dick inside me the devious ...


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leggyredhead 66 F
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Safety Issues   9/18/2004

I recently responded to something written by a submi ssive and posted under questions here. This submissive wrote in to say that based on online and phone interaction she met a Dominant from New York who put her in the hospital for eight days. She made reference to scening with him while he was heavily under the influence of alcohol. I have worked with victims of physical and sexual assault ...


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ratormo 50 M
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youngman/olderwoman   9/15/2004

I am a youngman and I am interested to date older women. Call it a fetish, but I really think that older women has a lot to offer compare to younger women. Here's a few : 1. OLDER WOMEN MORE CONFIDENT - THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WHETHER IT'S SEX OR COMPANIONSHIP. <br> <br> 2. OLDER WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE - THEY DON'T DEPEND ON A MAN TO PAY FOR THEM, THAT MEANS ...


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PASilverTop2 75 M
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Pre-Scene Negotiations   7/30/2004

I’ve been giving this list to my fem sub acquaintances and, over the past few weeks the response I got the most was “Whoa, thanks for telling me that! I would never have thought of it!” So, I thought I’d post it to the general public. Some of these are thing that you probably wouldn’t think of, but that doesn’t make them any less important. I’m going to talk about ...


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Gwyd 54 M
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Where to meet. Response   7/20/2004

When I meet a prospective partner for the first time, it is always in a public place. Coffee houses are nice because the athmosphere is relatively quiet and relaxed, you can sit close and talk, get to know a person, yet it is public enough for you to call for help if they turn out to be a little too agressive. It's also pretty cheap (The cost of a couple of cups of coffee) and if it is ...


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fireflymster 73 M
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Using common sense   7/18/2004

Here is a simple yet effective safety idea for future 'dates' and especially bondage submissives. If and when you finally agree to meet make a note of where you are meeting (make it a public place so you have witnesses to your meeting) get as many of your partners's details and proof of identity and post them to yourself (at home or suitable pickup) this would deter most of the unsavoury ...


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Wolfman228 56 M
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Mrs. Hannibal Lecter???   7/5/2004

I've recently had an email encounter with someone from this website who is a Dom. SHE had invited me to her network. I'm a little frightened of this because when I checked a profile under her AOL account it was all in some type of code and I've seen the word "Cannibal" in it. Just wanted to give a heads up to the fellas and ladies here. You can't be too shore of who you will meet out ...


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LifesAdventure 38 M
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RE. Dating Safety   4/5/2004

OMG what the hell is wrong with this guy. That sounds like he died and went straight to Alt heaven lol. But I suppose if that isnt for you, people should be careful and thoroughly find out what their getting themselves into.


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GinaMarie2 71 F
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Tens unit safety   4/2/2004

Number one it is never a good idea to use a physical device such as a tens unit. It is used for physical therapy. That device could cause your muscles to go into spasms. It could also make blood vessels contract and not in a good way. It can cause real bad pain if put into the hands of the wrong person. I have a tens unit for a shoulder injury and it has instructions on the correct way of ...


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Demspotis 49 M
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Novices might want to train in groups   3/26/2004

More so than in other relationships, submissives and masochists inevitably take particular risks in meeting someone new. And it's worse for novices. In this light, I want to praise the bravery of all who voluntarily enter a relationship as a submissive. It is always an act of courage to submit yourself to the attentions of us dominants. <br> One way (among many options) for ...


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TallNKinkyGuy 47 M
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When Meeting Someone, It is Always Good to Take Precautions   1/28/2004

I think many of us- both men and women- are intimidated by the idea that we might somehow compromise our safety and security if we "date strangers from the net". <br> Many years ago, if you were to tell a friend that you had met someone on the net, their first reaction might be something along the lines of "So you're really THAT desperate?". But as more and more of us have ...


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SweetThing34 54 F
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It could have happened to me   1/19/2004

There is a book entitled "Anyone You Want Me To Be" I suggest...eveyrone buy it Dom and sub alike. The reasons I will go into now. <br> When I was a brand new submissive, I made about every error one could make. I met someone claiming to be a Dom on AOL...He lied about being married and having the usual things I had found out leter. He wanted me to come out to Nebraska and ...


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suzykitten 58 F
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my enslavement   12/1/2002

I was coming from the store after picking up a couple packs of smokes. As I came up the street I saw a bunch of cop cars on the street in front of the crib. I stood at the corner watching hoping they weren;t at my place. Soon I saw two cops dragging my boyfreind out and throwing him into a car. I knew then going home wasn';t a good choice. I walked the streets for a bit finally going ...


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